You are quite right. The lives of women seem of little interest to the historian. Let me tell you a story -
During the first World War the British lost a total of 2,090,212 casualties out of a population of 45.4 million. Do you know what this means? – a generation without men. The chance of a woman getting married after those event in England were tragically low. I figure at least a million women did not marry after that generational tragedy. Have you ever seen so much as a word about this? Anywhere?
I promise you if two million women died in the United States, there would be government immigration policies in effect in a matter of weeks to allow quick citizenship for imported women. It would be considered a national crisis.
For the United States to have a proportional loss as the British did we would have to lose about 13 million men.
Women’s lives have not been considered important. Maybe that is changing.